Some children are able to go through their entire childhood without having any major stress come their way. Unfortunately, there are also kids who will have to deal with some situations that cause them to feel overwhelmed, including you divorcing their other parent or having to cope with other major life changes. As a parent, you’ll need to help them through these times.

One of the primary things you can do to help them is to talk to them about how they’re feeling when they’re facing anything that might cause them stress. It’s especially important for younger children who might not know how to relay their feelings yet.

They might take a cue from you about how to handle the circumstances. Even though it usually isn’t possible to always remain positive about things, you can work with them to help them see the good things that might come from the situation. You can address the negatives, but it might be beneficial to come up with a plan to address those.

Children won’t always say what’s going on with them. You might notice signs that something is amiss. These include things like doing worse in school than what’s normal for them or acting out more than usual. They might also complain of trouble sleeping, stomachaches or headaches.

If you’re going through a divorce now, you might help your children to fare better by trying to work with your ex to get the parenting plan set as quickly as possible. This is a way for them to have a more stable environment since they can become accustomed to the new way of life faster than they could if the situation would take longer to resolve.