This has been said before, but it bears repeating (often): Watch what you post online before, during and after your divorce because whatever you post can be used against you in a myriad of ways — particularly when things turn contentious.

If taking a break from social media and the internet isn’t practical for you, it’s helpful to keep some basic guidelines in mind regarding your online communications:

  • Don’t distort the truth. A post on a dating site that says you don’t have children, for example, can come back to haunt you during a custody battle and make you seem like a parent who isn’t putting your children first. A picture of you on Facebook that makes you look like you’re enjoying the finer things in life might aggravate your ex, but it could also fly in the face of your assertions that you’re unable to afford more support.
  • Don’t disparage your ex, the judge in your case or any experts who are involved. You can absolutely bet that someone will screenshot your post. Never post anything you wouldn’t 100% be comfortable having read out loud in court. Not only could it make your divorce more contentious, it could make the court side against you.
  • Stay off your ex-spouse’s social media pages. Don’t create a burner account to lurk on their page and don’t ask your friends to spy on them for you. You may see something that is needlessly upsetting or be accused of stalking if you’re caught.
  • Adjust your privacy settings and clean out your list of “friends.” If you’re like most people, there are people on your friends list that you don’t even know. Pare down your contacts to people that you trust are supportive and understanding.

Ideally, both halves a divorcing couple will work together to end things on a positive note — but that’s not always the case. An experienced advocate can help you avoid major problems during your divorce.