January has a wide-spread reputation among attorneys that isn’t pretty. It’s called “divorce month.” That’s when lawyers nationwide see a steady, heavy stream of new clients in their offices that’s up to 30% higher than normal. Most of those about to take this heavy step have just been waiting for the holidays to be over before addressing their marital woes.
Whether you’re seeking a divorce or you find yourself facing one at your spouse’s choosing, it’s important to know how to brace yourself for the changes that are coming:
- Get a support network. This doesn’t mean that you should turn entirely to friends or family. Instead, consider getting a therapist to help you work through the emotions surrounding your divorce so that you can approach difficult decisions with a clear head and make practical, rather than purely emotional, decisions.
- Get separate financial accounts. If you and your spouse are like many couples, you have at least one shared bank account and a few joint credit cards. It’s time to close those credit accounts to future transactions and begin using only cards in your name.
- Get new social media accounts. Your first instinct may be to blast your spouse on social media, but that can look problematic in court. Do yourself a favor and let your current social media accounts go fallow. Start a new account and carefully build a new network of highly supportive people. Make sure the privacy settings keep your spouse from peeking into your new world.
Finally, it’s always smart to talk with a divorce attorney as soon as possible — so don’t wait until the paperwork starts flying. You can gain a much better understanding of your situation by discussing the big picture with an experienced New York lawyer.